For second-time brides, there are a lot of uncertainties. Some decide they don’t want a traditional dress, while others select more intimate locations. But what about the shower? According to Harrison-based wedding-etiquette expert Melissa Leonard, any bride deserves to feel as special and beautiful as she did the first time around, whether or not a shower is part of that, and she offered us her expanded insights on how to handle this common conundrum.
Is it acceptable for a second-time bride to have another bridal shower?
I would say it is, depending on how much time has passed between the first and second wedding.
How much time is enough?
Circumstance should set the tone. If the husband passed away, of course, have a second shower. Potential issues can arise with a second shower if the situation is less unfortunate or when the two weddings are within just a few years of each other.
What should be done differently?
It’s more the celebration, not the gifts. It’s similar to having a baby shower for your second child. Some people find that in poor taste because you’ve already received what you need. Have just close family and friends as attendees.
Should children attend?
It is really up to the discretion of the bride. I recommend that [she] set an age minimum in case some of the gifts are more adult-oriented.
What kind of venue would you recommend?
A restaurant, or best friend or family member’s home. Something a little more tasteful where the recipients have an excuse to go out. The second time around, a bride usually has a tight-knit group of friends. You could also do a girls’ weekend!
